If you think a friend or family member is experiencing domestic violence, there are things you can do to help.
Note: To both reflect the overwhelming majority and for ease of reading, this document refers to victims/survivors of domestic violence as female, and perpetrators as male. However, this is not meant to imply that domestic violence does not occur in same-sex relationships, or by women to men. Click here to view advice for friends and family of men experiencing domestic violence produced by the Men’s Advice Line.
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Below are some suggestions about how to do this effectively, based on what formerly abused women have said they found helpful. People often feel awkward about ‘taking sides’ and try to keep out of a situation, believing it’s not really any of their business. Friends and family may think that they are being ‘neutral’, but the abuser usually takes this as evidence that his behaviour is acceptable. In addition, an abused woman can easily interpret the ‘neutrality’ of those closest to her as blame for the situation.